I [38M] am getting divorced at this point in my life (my wife actually came out of the closet to me, and we're on good terms, so we're signing up the papers in the spring.) I do know that I don't want to remain alone forever, so I'm committed to meeting people over the summer when things are finalized.
While I have no kids, a good job, and am otherwise a fairly decent looking gentleman, there is one thing I'm pretty self-conscious about going back into dating over the summer: I lost roughly 190lbs (344 > 155ish at my absolute lowest.) I added back some of that weight in the form of muscle and Creatine water weight (I'm 168 avg now) from weight lifting. While my biceps and quads and chest have essentially filled out to the point you'd never know I lost the weight in those areas, my midsection will never bounce back. It did improve slightly from doing a lot of core work, but I'd say only 10 or 15% max. I'm also not sure I ever want to do surgery to deal with it, but I'm debating. Still, there is a lot of loose skin that just hangs off me down there that I tuck into my pants.
For those who have lost significant amounts of weight, what is it like dating after the loss? Did anyone get freaked out? I have concerns that this is basically going to be a wall that I'll never overcome when getting back out there. I feel somewhat discouraged that if any dating ever progresses, it's going to be something that is just going to be a dealbreaker for enough people that I'm going to just give up on dating prospects (I'd never give up my weight loss though, because I feel good and it's healthy. It's just discouraging being otherwise pretty "cut" while having this looming over me under my clothes.)
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