Do I need to just give myself some time?

So I have been obese my entire life, honestly; started gaining weight around seven years old and haven’t really stopped since. I’ve lost 40 or 50 pounds here and there, only to gain it back during pregnancy or postpartum. My husband and I are now finished having children, due to some really traumatic pregnancy/birth circumstances. Though I’m mourning that part of my life, I have been kind of excited at the idea of trying to get back on track with weight loss, and get into a healthier place now that pregnancy is no longer on the table. However… I’m a SAHM with three boys; twins that are four and a two year old. We will be homeschooling, and they’re not in daycare, so I’m it gets… intense, to say the least. I feel like every time I try to take steps in a better direction, I am immediately derailed. I’ll try and wake up early to go for a walk around the block, plan out a healthy breakfast, etc. only to be stress eating in the kitchen like a mad woman by like 11 AM. By dinner-time I don’t even know what I’ve eaten previously, and don’t have the energy or mental fortitude to pull out a scale and track my dinner. I absolutely 100% love my kids, but it has been tremendously stressful lately. My youngest seems to have decided he’s going full-blown terrible twos. I just feel like for every two steps forward, I’m taking three back. Has anyone out there successfully lost a significant amount of weight while being a stay at home mom, full-time with kids? I would think it would be easier to stick to a pan cooking all my meals at home, but honestly when I was outside the house working a job it was way easier; I could just have a pre-packed lunch, and I was so focused on my work that I wasn’t snacking. At home I feel like my coffee and snacks are the little boosts that get me through the day. Anyways, I know this was all over the place, I’m not giving up, I’ve been fighting my whole life. I’m just, so, so tired.

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Want some encouragement !!

I am 31 yrs old 5'8 inches height . I am depressed but want to get better by making weight loss my focus as i feel unhealthy in my body and to prevent diseases due to overweight. I have joined gym and planning on walking on treadmill for half an hour and then some basic weightlifting. For diet I am trying to consume less food and stop eating sugary food. Just some encouragement from you guys will help me a lot. Also is there a support group online where we can talk on zoom or skype every week and talk about losing weight.

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don't look any different

hi i started losing weight about 3 months ago i started at almost 300 pounds (278) and am now at around 215 pounds but i look exactly the same really i can't see any difference and i was wondering how long it took you guys to see a difference? the main reason i'm doing it is low confidence in my appearance so it's frustrating i look exactly the same and it makes it hard for me to carry on. I struggle to leave the house a lot of the time with how ugly i feel

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This last 15 or so pounds is giving me fits.

https://imgur.com/a/WstnHjX

I have been at this for almost two years now. I have gone from 225 to 160. (46F 5’9)

While I am proud of this, I have been stuck since November. I eat between 1200-1300 calories a day. I’m at the gym 4-5 a week, a mix of weights and cardio.

This weight will NOT budge, particularly in my belly. I’ve tried eating a few more calories, and a few less. I’ve switched up my workouts so they don’t get stale. Nothing seems to be helping.

I’m not asking for advice, but if anybody has some I will gladly listen.

And I am NOT giving up. I’m just venting a little because I am beyond aggravated right now.

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Calorie deficit

Hey guys so I’m just starting my journey as of one week ago. I’m F26 starting at 238lbs at 5’5 and I’ve lost 3.3lbs this week eating at 1200 calories.

I posted over in 1200isplenty and got some feedback that 1200 is probably too low for me given my weight and that I might be better off bumping my intake up.

I’m just looking for other opinions and experiences eating 1200 and if it truly is too low for someone like me. I also have a chronic illness which means I am fairly inactive. I do 30 minute daily walks with my dog and that’s about it. I plan to try and start some exercise when I’ve got a bit of the weight off, particularly strength training.

Would around 1500 be a better goal for me? I’m feeling ok and super motivated and satisfied with my meals at this point but I know this isn’t a sustainable deficit and I don’t plan on it being long term, maybe a few months to get rid of a good bit of excess weight.

Any experiences and thoughts on a good deficit for me would be great 😊

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Lost weight due to stress, how do I keep it off?!

How do I use unintentional weight loss as a jumping off point for further loss? My body seems to be pulling me back to my starting weight!

Background: Over the last four weeks I’ve gone through a super stressful situation and have lost 10 of the 20-30lbs I’ve needed to lose to get to a healthy weight.

I was taking care of a family member that became I’ll suddenly and literally didn’t have time to eat (or food wasn’t available in the health care setting). At the same time I was run off my feet supporting this person.

0/10. Do not recommend.

Despite the stress I feel physically better with this weight gone. It’s easier to get around, I’m not as tired, I feel lighter. I’d like to use this as a jumping off point to lose the final 10-20 stubborn pounds that refuse to move.

As I’ve started to eat more regularly my body keeps pulling me back up. Salads, grilled chicken, hummus, eggs … I’m inching back up the scale.

How do I keep the unintentional momentum going, or even maintain at this point?!

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Needing moral support. I joined Noom 12 days ago and I've been overeating by about 1,500 calories every day since. Advice? Suggestions? Reflections?

Hi guys,

I am 5'1. When I joined Noom 12 days ago I was eating about 2,200 calories a day, not working out, and getting anywhere between 1,200-3,500 steps a day. I weighed 175. Since joining Noom, I now am 177.8 lbs. I've been ordering takeout, drinking, and everything I've been doing has me eating about 700-1500 calories a day over. I know intellectually that 3,500 calories is a pound. I know I need a defecit to lose weight. I did change a few habits the last 12 days. I am doing an Orange Theory class 5x a week (it's an hour long). I'm getting between 6,000-12,000 steps a day. So the activity has gone up, but so has my food intake.

How can I refocus? How can I get on track? Has anyone else experienced self-sabotage like this?

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30 Day Accountability Challenge - Day 27

Hello loseit folks!

Day 27, more like day 29 since it’s a short month, I can count, kinda. Speaking of, here’s the sign up post for March!

https://redd.it/11cvgzg

Log before I eat everything: Logged!

1800 – 2000 calories a day: Maintenance today.

Exercise five days a week: TBD. 20/27 days.

Journal for two minutes before playing my Switch: Missed it. I'm going to journal now though. 21/27 days.

Read & respond to at least 3 comments a day on this post: I’m going to try & stay on top of the sign up post this month!

Today's gratitude list: Today, I'm grateful for being given another day to get up & strive. I’m not feeling like I did a good job being much of anything today but I got up and did my best. Sometimes that’s all you can do.

Random self-care action I want to conquer today: Gonna journal for a bit in dim lighting, my brain is crispy fried today.

Your turn! How was your day 27 / 29?

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Activities that are not eating/drinking

Anyone want to help generate a big list of activities that aren’t eating/drinking centered?

Especially things to do in the evening after work. All my social and entertainment activities involve calorie intake, and I need to change that!!! But in reality, I’m bored and going out to eat or to my local brewery is an activity! The more creative the better!

I’d love to have a big list and when I think of going to do a social eating activity, I can look back and pick a different activity!

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I binged last night and now I feel terrible

I've struggled with my weight since I was 8 years old. I've relied on junk food as my main source of comfort and cure for boredom for as long as I remember. It's only in the last several years that i've began to really understand the value of eating healthy food as it relates to my physical and mental health.

It's been a rollercoaster the last couple of years. I steadily went from 148 in October 2021 to 185 as of January 1 of this year. This is due to binge eating. I've also struggled with addiction to marijuana since I was 14, and being high not only increases my hunger significantly, but it dimishes my ability to think rationally and make good decisions for myself. I will give in to absolutely anything I want in the moment with no thought to the consequences. I've really toned down my weed intake, though I really want to just give it up 100%. Everytime I smoke I eat a crazy amount of food, to the point that I ruin 3-4 days of hard work.

I decided on February 20 that I don't care about anything more than getting my eating habits and physical/mental health in check. I honestly killed it all week. I'm eating between 1300-1400 calories/day (focusing on veggies & protein) and doing 1+ hour of exercise a day as well, including a combination of walking, dancing, and strength workouts. I haven't felt hungry or deprived. Getting motivated to do the workouts has been a bit challenging, but I did it. I've felt SO proud of myself and i'm in a calorie deficit of ~800 calories/day. I know it will take time, patience, and consistency in order for me to get to my goal weight of 140, but i'm happy to say I've been enjoying the process. I know it's only been a week but if I keep the pace, I know it WILL happen eventually.

Aaaand then. Last night I slipped up HARD. I went to my friend's house and impulsively smoked weed. I tried my best to stay focused, but things went for shit and I ended up eating chips, 2 granola bars, a meal from mcdonalds, and 2 pieces of toast with cinnamon sugar. This is after I already consumed all my food for the day, so this shot my calorie intake up to 3000. I'm doing everything I can not to punch myself in the face right now. I know what's done is done, but it's so hard not to be frustrated at my stupidity.

Now, i'm in damage control mode. I have to burn an extra 1200 calories just to get back to where I was before yesterday. I know this might not seem healthy but I plan on doing double the workouts the next two days and cutting back to 1200 calories. I know that might seem unhealthy, but I really don't want to accept that I fucked up my progress. All week i've been telling myself that things are changing, i'm not going to keep being the same person who fucks around and lets myself down, yet here we are again. I refuse to accept the failure and i'm going to do my best to mitigate it. I want to teach myself that being high for an hour isn't worth fucking everything up.

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Suddenly can't stop eating!!! Help!

I've been making incremental lifestyle changes to acheive a sustainable calorie deficit for about a year now, i lost 50lbs and was just 10lbs from my goal! I was feeling satiated, happy, healthy, and proud. My skin got clearer and i had more energy.

But all of a sudden, about 2.5 weeks ago i started eating insane amounts of food. Every day I've gone to the gas station or walmart and bought just piles of junk and ate it uncontrollably past the point of comfort. I feel literally posessed, like i am in a trance, outside of myself watching my body eat and eat, i can't stop. I wake up and my first thought every day is about unhealthy food. It's like an unignorable constant itch. Yesterday i managed not to buy anything and I ended up eating an entire container of frosting from the back of my fridge. I've gained like 10 lbs back, I know some of that is water but it's still so discouraging.

i just don't understand myself at all. I don't have a history of binge eating or any ed, I'm not particularly stressed or hormonal, no illness, no drug use, no life changes, and no new meds. I was eating junky foods in moderation before so it's not like i was on a stringent program or felt restricted. Right after overeating i feel so uncomfortable and so motivated to do better going forward and then an hour later I'm eating again. It's like my brain broke in two for no reason. All the introspection, empowerment and accomplishments of a whole year have gone out the window, I'm just so defeated and kind of scared.

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Self acceptance during weight loss

I’m currently at my heaviest adult weight and for the past 2 years, have been overweight for the first time in my life. I understand the reasons: too much emotional eating; losing my FIL to Covid; having fibroids and adenomyosis; and finally, getting a hysterectomy. It’s been a … lot. Also, I’m now in perimenopause (still have ovaries).

I understand that weight gain under these circumstances is not the end of the world and even understandable. Yet I feel really ashamed and embarrassed. I hate buying larger clothes. I am sad that I’m a much slower runner now — not that I was ever that fast!

I’m now doing CICO and hoping to get back to the high end of “normal” for my height. It’s slow going. But I hope I can get my emotions under control, too,and don’t know where to start.

Any thoughts? I’ve often heard that you can’t hate yourself thin and stay mentally healthy but I’m find it hard to find self acceptance.

Thanks for reading. This is a great community. ♥️

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Which lunch option is better?

Started packing on weight and want to nip it before it gets out of hand. Which lunch option would be better?

272 calorie ham sandwich 5.1g of fat - 2.4g of saturated fat

0% fat 337 calorie yoghurt 63g of carbs 58.5g of sugars

335g Mozzarella, basil & tomato pasta 12.2g of fat - 4.0g of saturated fat

Alternatively what are good snack items I can pick up from the supermarket when I go on lunch at work?

I also go to the gym 5 days a week and aim to burn off around 600 calories while there

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I need help helping my girlfriend.

TW: eating disorder

My girlfriend and I are both working to get in shape. I'm 28, she's 27. We both go to the gym and are eating fairly healthy now. The issue is that she had an eating disorder when she was younger so if she counts calories she becomes obsessive over it. She has expressed frustration to me over wanting to lose weight. I don't know any of her measurements/weight because she's not comfortable telling me and I'm okay with that. I'm just not sure what I can do or how to help because I follow CICO. I just want her to reach her goal in a healthy manner and be happy.

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30 Day Accountability Challenge - March Sign Up Post

Hello lose it folks! It’s almost March! That means a new daily accountability challenge thread!

For the newbies to the sub reddit, please start here, so much good info!

https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/wiki/quick_start_guide

https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/wiki/faq

And hey, maybe it’s not a bad idea to review them regardless of where you are in your journey.

Let’s get down to the business, shall we?

This is the sign-up post to outline your goals. Please don’t limit yourself to weight loss or health goals, we’d love to hear about your reading list, chores, whatever you want to do in the month ahead.

There will be a daily update post for you to post how your day went, you can use whichever daily post fits your time zone if that’s an issue too. Don’t feel bad for missing a day here & there, this post is to help you feel supported however often you would like to check in.

At the end of the month, there is a wrap up post to reflect on the progress you made or didn’t make & what you learned. Learning is progress, don’t forget that!

We try to foster a supportive, caring place to discuss the actual day to day of deficits & counting & caring so much about how we fuel our bodies & lives. So be kind, interact if you like & hopefully you feel supported and cared for. Leading by example, here I go!

Log before I eat everything:

1800 – 2000 calories a day:

Exercise five days a week: I want to get back into the habit of a walk & an on purpose workout. I got new fitness gear for the holidays & I want to use what I already have to make 2023 me a stronger version of me! I want to do yoga twice a week & use the new gloves & impact pads I got twice a week.

Journal for two minutes before playing my Switch: A sneaky way to ensure at least two minutes of journaling most days. X/X days.

Read & respond to at least 3 comments a day on this post:

Today's gratitude list: Today, I'm grateful for

Random self-care action I want to conquer today:

Now, onto the fun part. What are your goals for the month ahead? What do you plan to conquer in March?

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Anyone else wish the LoseIt app would allow you to “stack” unused calories on certain days?

I know the app has the weekend flex option for premium, but I don’t always need that option. The dream would be if I could stack my unused calories throughout the week and then actually add them to the days I need them for. I know it doesn’t really actually matter, but it feelsbadman when it shows that I’m over my calories for the day but in reality I’m still under by 300 for the week. Anyone else wish this? And also tips on how not to feel mad at the little red filled in circle when you go over lol (kidding).

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Fast Food is almost inedible

This just hit me today when I say say inedible it’s more likely people should eat these type of food on few occasions maybe 2 times a month and here are my reasons why, this is all based on my experience collected over my life time. I am 5’9 160 pounds currently maintaining doing body recomp. My calories required is about 2500.

1)You can literally eat 1,500 calories in 15 minutes and be hungry in a hour or two. Try eating 1,500 calories worth of rice,vegetables ,fruit and lean meat, you will probably vomit before you finish.

2)The ingredient list is so vastly long that you got to question what are these chemicals and compounds, why do burger have the same type of chemicals used on yoga mat, I mean it’s safe or at least I hope it is.

3) it’s not cheap no more, specially if you order it via an app.

Honestly I’ve been eating fast food less and less as I settle into a healthy life style and after this point I shall never eat it again, honestly the benefits are gone and all that are left are cons.

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Struggling to live a balanced life, going out and being fit seem to be mutually exclusive.

Looking for suggestions. I have lost now 53 lbs and 26lbs away from 15% bf. I am very good at losing weight and eating healthy when I tell my friends no to hanging out and don’t see my family much, which i did for a very productive few months before realizing how negative that was. I am now challenging myself to be healthy and social.

I moved to a very social part of a big city and have friends asking for me to go out a lot now. I’ve been keeping my protein intake the same and budgeting my calories to allow alcohol intake. I’ve been going to bed hungry and buzzed a lot lol.

But theres things I haven’t figured out well. Is there a way to budget in getting wasted once a month or eating something unhealthy like chinese food or pizza. My cheat meals so far have been like a chipotle bowl or something else healthy and a bit higher in calories than a normal meal (I budget the rest of my day accordingly)

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Dieting is hard. Now it's easy. Nope, it's hard. Oops, I mean easy.

Who else has wildly different experiences on a week-by-week basis in terms of diet? Last week, dieting seemed arduous. I couldn't bring myself to eat less than 5k calories a day and I never felt satiated. This week, I'm totally satisfied, and I'm only at 3k calories a day. Normally I'd blame stress for the difference, but each week has similar levels of stress.

I guess the lesson is that if you find yourself in a "Dieting is Hard" phase, keep applying pressure to yourself and eventually, for reasons beyond introspection, you'll find a "Dieting is Easy" phase.

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Feeling a little stuck in my weight loss journey

I would like to lose weight and I had a couple of questions. Previously I used to be 95 kg(210 lbs) in college. I have cut out processed foods to a lot of extent. I used to have a lot of issue with binge eating and I still do it but the portions are much lesser.

My body statistics:

Gender-Female

Age-25

Height- 5ft 6inches / 167 cm

Present weight- 74 kg / 163 lbs

Goal weight-60 kg / 132 lbs

Body measurements- 39-30-43

My questions:

1). Is my goal weight realistic for my height considering the fact that I have a broad frame(shoulders, hips)?

2). I used the tdee calculator and found my maintenance calories to be 1800(at sedentary). I exercise on and off so i did not take that into account.

So how much deficit would be a good point to start?

( I am not expecting too fast results but too slow progress makes me feel doubtful. I have been tracking my calories consumption for a month and it hugely varies anywhere between 1300-2400 depending on my day)

3). I would also appreciate any tips for controlling binge eating/emotional eating especially at nights.

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16m 215lbs 5'10 - cant stop gaining weight, was 160 a year ago... I need some support or words of wisdom

To preface, I understand that I am young and shouldn't be focusing on my weight, but it has effected my daily life, exercise, sleep, and confidence. I've tried to cut cals but binge eating always consumes me. I just am gaining so much weight, so fast. I feel an irresistible urge to binge eat almost everyday.

I am fairly active, and I swim 5ish miles a week and lift 3 days a week. I really just need someone to hold me accountable and some way to stop my binge eating. Thanks.

Edit: I'm about 35% body fat (estimated) and have a lot of fat in my face and stomach area.. dm me for photos.

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How do I loose weight? Need advice.

I finally got the motivation to get up and start a gym membership. But I’m lost. I go there and just lift weights for like 40 min and go on the treadmill for 20 min. I’m feeling lost since I’m just doing random stuff. I try my best to eat about 2500 calories a day but I think I go a little over. Im starting a job at FedEx as a package handler so that might help me out since it requires some movement. Also I go to school so I get a few steps in. So school + job + Gym = weight loss? Job is 4 days a week and gym is 4-5 days a week. I’m just asking for advice. Does anyone have a schedule they used to loose weight? What did you guys do?

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Body is like jello

I’m in the middle of a weight loss transformation and I’ve lost about 50 lbs so far. I’m 24 if that means anything. I’ve always been fat. Lost weight but gained it all back. But now I’m determined to keep it off. I’m just in a Diderot mindset. I do cardio and some weigh training. Kinda scared of doing weight lifting because I still have body fat and I feel like I’ll just look bigger. Either way... even though I’ve lost weight, I still see the same old fat me in the mirror. My body is super jiggly. Like the fat is super soft. I don’t really feel any lose skin. It’s just fat. Like reaaally soft fat. And I was just wondering, has anyone else experienced this? Is this a part of the weight loss process? That it gets jiggly before it goes away? Or am I just gonna be jello from now on? It’s so frustrating and I just want to give up. I’ve also hit a plateau and I have a hard time losing weight atm. Don’t really know what to do since I barely eat. But that’s another story for another time.

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Exercise…

Has anyone successfully lost weight using a rowing machine as main form of exercise? I’m disabled so was only exercising with physio and EP whilst supervised, I’ve just got a rowing machine for home as it’s something I can safely manage myself. Desperate to lose the weight that I gained after I ended up disabled and from medications.

I’m doing 20 minutes a night, trying to avoid a crash but also push myself.. and I’m worried it won’t be enough. I’m counting calories too and I feel constantly hungry (meds and ADHD combo stimulate appetite well beyond a healthy need), but calorie counting alone has barely shifted the weight because of meds I’m on. Hoping for some inspiration from others who have lost weight rowing!

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A beginner’s question about Calorie Budgeting

Hey y’all, so I’ve recently started making a habit of calorie counting on the Lose It app and giving myself a budget of 1500 calories a day.

Yesterday due to being so busy I wasn’t able to eat until basically 2 am the next day, so I essentially went more than 24 hours without food.

While technically it was the next day, should I account for the meal into my calorie budget on Friday or into the next day on Saturday?

FYI I usually prefer to skip breakfast and lunch and have a big satisfying dinner.

I appreciate any advice, thank you!

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I just realized I think about food ALL THE TIME. Is this normal?!

I(36F) understand biology will make our brain seek out resources to keep us alive (food, water, shelter, etc.), but I just realized food is literally always on my mind. I realized that because lately I've been trying to eat only when my stomach is physically hungry, and not when something just "sounds good." While sitting at my desk working (albeit, not mindlessly), I thought to myself, 'Mmm... I can't wait til I'm hungry enough for cake.' Then I realized I've been thinking about cake for the last hour (and talking myself down from eating any right now, as I'm not physically hungry), as well as thinking about how delicious my lunch was. Then I realized I think about food probably 98% of my waking hours.

Do I have a problem?! Because I feel like a weirdo right now. lol

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Disproportionally large fatpad, i have lost 15kg and see no difference

I was quite overweight, 6’0” and 120kg, I have since then lost 15kg and everything gets smaller except the fatpad, it’s to the point where my fatpad now extends longer out than my stomach, my fatpad covers easily 2 inches of dick, bone pressed I am 6.5” but with my fatpad I am 4.5”.

I need to lose 20kg more to reach my goal weight of 85kgs, so you think losing this weight would help me get rid of this ugly fat? I am not exaggerating when I say that it weighs 2kgs, it’s huge and I have 0 confidence because of it.

I have already lost almost half the weight required to reach my goal but so far there’s no difference at all, is hope lost?

And before people say that women don’t mind, I don’t care about them, I mind, it looks like my penis is using a couch pillow as a hat and I hate it. Cosmetic surgery is t an option sadly, it’s too expensive and doesn’t even exist in my region

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Take Before Photos!!

I don't know who needs to hear this but take a before photo when you start your weight loss journey. Even if you don't share it with another soul, even if you hate being in pictures and avoid them like the plague.

My goal is to lose 50 pounds 189 to 139 5' 6" female.

I have lost 21 pounds in 4 months, and to be honest, I don't see it, I don't feel, and due to the clothes I wear (sweat pants and very large and loose shirts) my clothes don't show it. It is very discouraging. I even checked on a scale at a doctor's office just to make sure mine at home wasn't broken! I know I am very harsh on my appearance, so this plays a role. I hate photos of myself to the point I won't take any myself. Since the weight loss is slow, it's harder to tell. If I had the before photo, maybe I would at least be able to show myself what I have accomplished. It would require less effort for me to keep on going.

I wish I had a before photo to compare myself with, but all I got is the number on the scale for now.

Going to get off my ass to take some now for the rest of my journey.

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Feeling hopeless after decades of failure

Has anyone else here been through Hell and back, multiple times, just trying to get started? Did anyone REALLY struggle and almost give up before they found what worked for them? I have been trying to lose weight for decades with no luck. I always fail. I’ve come to the realization that losing weight just might not happen for me. I just won’t ever find a way for it to work for me.

I have tried every diet under the sun. I’ve tried CICO, Keto, 21 Day fix, Whole30, Clean eating, Intuitive Eating (which DOES NOT work for me), Bright Line Eating. I’ve tried not eating, I’ve tried giving up and not doing ANYTHING. I have wasted tens of THOUSANDS of dollars on diet programs, fitness programs, consultations with diet gurus, dieticians and nutritionists who all promise me, convincingly, that their program is the one that will work for me. I've always been overweight.

I am 39, a lifelong history of being overweight, and after having two babies and a hysterectomy, I am now over 100 lbs overweight. My grandmother and father died of diabetes complications. On my father’s deathbed a few months ago, I promised him that I would finally get healthy. And I just haven’t been able to get a hold on things. I just eat and eat.

I’m so tired of it all. The only thing I haven’t tried is gastric bypass surgery, which I honestly want to avoid. I am depressed and I have anxiety. I am in therapy for this. I have two little boys whom I love so much, but when I am stressed after dealing with them all day, dealing with my overbearing MIL (who I live with half the year), dealing with work stress, no matter what diet or ‘program’ I’m on, I always give in and overeat. It’s getting to the point where I don’t think I want to live anymore if this is how things are going to be. I can’t just accept myself at this size and throw body positivity bandaids over it all. I feel like Frodo sometimes from LotR, doing an impossible task, an impossible journey, and feeling incredibly inadequate and unprepared.

The one thing I have wanted most in my life feels IMPOSSIBLE to get.

I’ve been doing a lot of work in therapy, trying to figure out why I overeat, and it’s not just to self-medicate when I am stressed, it is because I’m so unhappy in life that the only real pleasure I get is from eating food. The problem for me, isn’t finding the PERFECT program for me. The problem is that I just CANT STOP EATING.

I’ve tried replacing “extracurricular” eating with other things, like exercise, hobbies, connecting with friends. But at the end of it, when I’m stressed, my resolve just gets thrown out the window.

I am posting this to see if anyone else can relate to my misery, and hopefully share how they got out of it.

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Maybe TW? I need motivation 😅

I feel like I’ll never reach my goal weight. I’m just so disgusted with my body. I want to feel good in clothes and buy clothes that fit right. I’m exhausted. I walk MINIMUM a mile everyday and sometimes up to 3/4 day. Was down 167, checked this morning back to 169.8. Sick of it!!! I count calories and use weight watchers to calculate points like that as well. Usually stay well within my points range everyday. Hell. I hadn’t even nothing sweet for almost a month until last night. This is driving me insane! Ive done the starvation route and it works but that way just straight hurts and i feel like it does not provide lasting results. I decided to try to lose it the “right” way and the amount of time its taking is killing me. There’s so many factors just against me too that I cant control. Tired of looking this way😪😪😪

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Any idea for standardizing dinners?

TLDR: What are some dinner food that can be easy to make, eat most days, and can be bought in bulk?

Every morning I eat a Pb&J sandwich with my proteins shake at 9am every day it's what I enjoy. For lunch I eat rice, meat, veg and or salad and maybe beans every single day it's how I was raised at 12pm. At 4 I eat a fruit as a snack, most likely an apple. I love all of what I eat I literally can not get tire of it been eating exactly like this for a bit over a year.

But for dinner it's a shit show everyday, I can't seem to standardize it, I love tomatoes soup but the sodium is out rages and making it every day is a pain in the ass. I am asking this subreddit What are some dinner food that can be easy to make, eat most days, and can be bought in bulk?

-At this point I'm thinking pasta or sandwich.

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30 Day Accountability Challenge - Day 23

Hello loseit folks!

Day 23! I really need to look at next month’s goals, it’s sneaking up on me so fast. I hope your Thursday was lovely.

Log before I eat everything: Logged!

1800 – 2000 calories a day: On it! I made some bad choices after dinner last night & blew up my calories. Today is another oppurtunity to succeed. Gonna have a big salad with lots of lean protein for dinner.

Exercise five days a week: TBD gotta post & run, hoping to sneak in a walk & some posture poses. 17/23 days.

Journal for two minutes before playing my Switch: Not today, I was rushing to get stuff ready for a friend to visit my island later today. 17/22 days.

Read & respond to at least 3 comments a day on this post: I’m catching up on reading some of your wonderful comments, y’all are so inspiring. Keeping me going!

Today's gratitude list: Today, I'm grateful for access to mental health care. And yeah, again. I'm a bit of a mess after therapy, imagine where I'd be otherwise. Actually, let’s not. That’s some Stephen King level scary.

Random self-care action I want to conquer today: Therapy session & being kind to myself after.

Your turn! How was your day 23?

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Will somebody please knock some sense into me

Last year, I lost about 40lbs, but was still about 20 or 30lbs from my goal. The holidays happened, I cheated, a lot, and well, I never really got back on the wagon.

I'm up about 15 lbs from my lowest weight last year.

Now, I find my sleep is suffering, I'm always tired, I have stomach issues and brain fog and I just generally feel less than great most of the time.

I know what I need to do. I just need to do what I did for most of last year. Count calories and exercise 3 or 4 times a week.

But, I'll start and be good for a day or two... and then I fall off the wagon again.

I hate it and I don't know how to fix this.

Can anyone help knock some sense into me.

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How do you cope with increasing opposite sex attention

I know this is going to rustle some feathers and possibly being memed, especially with women living this every day of their lives but please bear with me!

So I'm M33, 174cm and as of this day 105 Kg (Started at 123 Kg in the last week of December with a goal weight of 80 Kg so almost halfway there).

I've never been bad to look at. In fact in my early 20s I was quite the looker, and then life happened. Even at my worst, I was still not THAT bad.

Now, however, as I regain my health and confidence and lose weight, it's all starting to come back and I'm getting A LOT more attention, which isn't bad to be honest, but I'm having trouble processing some of it, mostly from colleagues and other people that I regularly deal with that have now drastically shifted the way they get along with me.

And I get it to a degree, but this change in tune is so big that I don't really know how to interpret it.

Does anyone have a similar experience that can share some advice?

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I hate being fat so much

I have been stuck at 256lbs for so long now. I've gone down and then back up. I've tried to be body positive but I hate my size so much and I'm so physically uncomfortable. When I do yoga I can't get into many positions because of my weight. Every single day I end up binging. Please can anyone tell me what they did to lose a significant amount of weight? I just need to get past the first 23lbs and I'll feel like I'm going in the right direction. 233 is the lowest I've been in the last year and I binged my way back up to 256. I don't know how to stick with it last 3pm. I'm 37 in 2 months and if I don't get a grip now it's just going to get harder and harder to shift. Thank you so much in advance.

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Reminder to measure yourself along the weight loss journey!!

Hi long time lurker and just recently been on my journey to lose some weight and get healthier for the past month. I’ve been doing the Chloe thing weight loss challenge this past month and am on my last week. I was getting a little disappointed looking at the scales since I only lost around 4 pounds. I also took measurements and realized I slimed my waist down by almost 2 inches though.

I’ve constantly struggled with checking the scale every couple days and feeling discouraged. I just want to say if anyone out there feels similar remember to use other metrics to track your journey. Change can be hard and it will take time to see the difference outwardly, don’t count yourself out👏🏽

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Does alcohol slow down weightloss afterwards?

So I am going to a party on Saturday fora friend of mine, huge gathering, 80-100 people.

I'll drink some beers, of course! But how will that affect my weightloss the following week or even weeks? I can fit 5 beers into my daily calorie range without any difficulty, 5 beers, 330 ml each are about 660 kcals, thats not a problem, I'll simply eat a small lunch.

Will it affect my weightloss the following week and if so, by how much? Will I gain weight the following day?

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How'd you guys get started?

I'm 34 (M) and have recently really started packing on weight. I lived most of my life (last decade) "overweight" but mainly felt normal (6'2 200 lbs) recently I've had quite a few changes in my life like having a child which has resulted in me not looking after myself. In the last 2 years I've put on 25 lbs and now I'm starting to feel really fat and it's impacting my self esteem. I feel slow and lethargic too. I mentally know I need to eat healthier, but when I'm hungry I keep making awful decisions. How'd you guys stop the spiral and start looking after yourself?

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didn't think i'd make it today

i've been counting calories and hitting the gym consistently for almost two months and it's working. without imposing any dietary rules besides keeping a calorie deficit, i find myself usually eating twice a day (once in the morning, once in the evening). today i got up early and threw my schedule off a little. without realizing the time, i took my second meal super early. usually i'd eat around 6 pm and today it was barely 4. realizing i'd hit my calories for the day so early i was like 'well... fuck'. i mean, i'd still be able to eat and stay under 2k for the day, but i really wanted to keep my goal deficit.

what's crazy to me is that it's 11:00 now and i'm still good. i've had an apple and some tea since dinner but that's it. i'm amazed this is my body right now since it usually cries itself to sleep because it can't have ice cream.

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Zero progress despite everything

Male, 271lb, 6′1″ eating around 2100 calories, weightlifting 5-6 times a week and still not losing weight. I started at 2700 calories because previously, when I dropped calories too fast I started having problems with constipation, then I decreased calories slowly to 2400 and still had no progress. now I'm at 2100 and have 0 progress. mostly im sitting at home, but have around 4000-5000 steps a day and sometimes I go outside to ride bicycle. I do not feel confident to decrease calories anymore, because at 2100 I already feel very tired and having no energy for training. around 1.5 years ago, when I was 231lb I dropped 13lb with calorie deficit, but then stopped for some reasons and now with same exact deficit I have no progress. I don't know what to do, I think it may be some medical condition, I checked for vitamin D and TSH and had problems with vitamin D, but now it is in normal range, as well as TSH.

Any suggestions what to do? Or maybe any medical conditions that can be affecting weightloss?

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Last 15 pounds are kicking my ass

I have 15 pounds more to lose before I reach normal weight. To keep the weight going down, I eat very small meals for lunch and dinner and I'm perpetually hungry. I can no longer watch cooking shows or look at anything with food unless I just ate because they make me too hungry, especially before bed. I exercise for an hour a day.

To be honest, I don't know if I can beat this. I'm a small female so my calorie allowance is low. Breakfast is a cup of plain yogurt plus maybe a banana. My lunch/dinner are basically a little brown rice, some veg and protein(like fish/egg), all in tiny portions. No desserts.

How do I distract myself from the constant hunger? My schedule is currently quite free but may change later so I want to lose as much weight as possible while I have the time to exercise.

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30 Day Accountability Challenge - Day 21

Hello loseit folks!

Day 21! Bit of a tough one for me, so let’s get to it.

Log before I eat everything: Logged!

1800 – 2000 calories a day: On it!

Exercise five days a week: Rest day, I didn’t mean for it to be so I'm annoyed at my own choices. 15/21 days.

Journal for two minutes before playing my Switch: Not today. 16/20 days.

Read & respond to at least 3 comments a day on this post: Not tonight, gonna be busy off screens for the evening. I'm sorry kids, I get home from work & my eyes are too tired to do much screens. I’m working on getting a new presciption so I can spend more time on here with y’all.

Today's gratitude list: Today, I'm grateful for being given another day to do human stuff like breathing & watching the sun set.

Random self-care action I want to conquer today: Get to bed early & no screens after this post.

Your turn! How was your day 21?

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how to stop myself from caving

After now just over a month of following my diet to a tee and eating healthy every day, I told myself i’d have a sliver of this slice of cake that I had opted out of eating the day before.

Basically ended up having a sliver, then another and then the whole slice.. and then another slice. I even started to eat the second slice, put down the remaining half and told myself i’d stop. I didn’t stop and finished eating the second slice.

It’s so easy for me to eat healthy when the food isn’t in my reach, but as soon as I get my hands on it i just eat it right up.

If anyone has any similar experiences feel free to share how you dealt with the habit and the feeling of guilt afterwards.

I know it’s just a day of progress lost and i need to keep going, but one day is a lot in my eyes. idk

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I accidentally went past my goal weight without realizing it

First off: I don’t weigh myself because of my ED history. The last time I was weighed was at my gynecologist about a year ago. I was maintaining around that weight (75 kg/165.3 lbs) for about a few months.

I‘m at the end of a four week vacation and went to a water park yesterday. Before going on the slide, everyone must be weighed. I was dreading the weigh-in a bit because I was afraid it would trigger my ED and I was on vacation, so I was eating whatever I wanted, including softdrinks and snacks which I don‘t consume at home. Anyway, when I stepped on the scale, I was 68 kg (149.9 lbs), so 4 kg (8.8 lbs) lighter than my goal weight (72 kg/158.7 kbs), 7 kg (15.4 lbs) lighter than my last weigh-in at the doctor. I was a bit in shock. I thought: „Yeah, that scale is obviously not working right“. But then I weighed the same at the next four scales and reality hit. I was on the brink of tears, happy tears, of course. I haven‘t been under 70 kg (154.3 lbs) since my bachelor studies 15 years ago.

I’ve been struggling with my body image and weight for more than 20 years. The first time I was dieting, I was 14 years old. I was a normal weight but on the chubbier side. My mom set me on my first diet then. She was a bit overweight for most of her adult life and wanted me to lose the baby fat so I wouldn‘t be struggling like she did. She came from a place of love but it backfired and she laid the ground work for what would become a 15+ year long battle with a binge eating disorder.

I was thin at the end of high school but the weight gain started during my bachelor studies when a combination of three things happened: (1) I was being bullied in university and fell into depression/anxiety, (2) I was living on my own and therefore out of my mom‘s constant supervision and commentary of my food consumption, (3) the first waves of Hashimoto kicked in although I didn‘t release it was Hashimoto until a few years later. In an effort to mitigate the weight gain, I tried every diet that I came across. That‘s when the binge-restrict-cycle started.

Over the years, I saw therapists for my depression, a nutritionist for my binge eating, personal trainers for my fitness. I once lost 10 kg (22 lbs) with nine months of keto so my insurance would pay for my breast reduction surgery. I gained it all back a year after surgery. I was a successful dieter, until I wasn‘t. I was incredibly disciplined until life came in the way, I hit a plateau, or depression set in. I was so sick and tired of my constant struggle and my fight against my body.

I put my personal life on hold, never dated, avoided going out with friends. I put all my energy into work and my „health journey“. During my depressive phases, all my energy was used to „function“. I didn‘t have the energy to diet then. I self-medicated with food. I was 88 kg (194 lbs) at my highest weight. Once I was out of the depressive phase, I put all my energy into getting rid of the weight I had gained during my depressive phase.

Everything changed when I decided to stop trying to lose weight. Through Abby Sharp‘s Youtube channel, I came across the book Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Resch. It helped me tremendously to change my mindset. I was starting to accept my body and listen to it. I also used the initial drive that came with reading the book to address some health issues. I have suffered from IBS as long as I can remember. I took the opportunity of one of the Covid lockdowns (no eating out, no family gatherings, always eating at home) to change my diet to low FODMAP to find the foods that trigger my IBS. I not only cured my IBS but also lost 4 kg (8.8 lbs) without even trying. Once lockdown was over, I went to the gym 2-3 times a week because I felt that my osteoarthritis improved with the movement. Within a year, I was down at 75 kg (165.3 lbs) just by listening to my hunger and fullness cues. I was comfortable where I was at. I wanted to be at a healthy BMI but if 75 kg (165.3 lbs) was where my body maintained, I was okay with that. My body felt good. My bowels were calm. My depression was much better. I haven‘t had a binge episode in two years. I finally had the energy to focus on my personal life. I went on dates. I tried new sports. I found new hobbies. I went on this big vacation on my own.

Now, I‘m even a bit upset that my surprise weight loss upset me so much. It shouldn‘t matter anymore, shouldn‘t it? But I‘m still human with hidden desires after all. I‘ll appreciate my body for being at a healthy BMI now and will continue with my healthy mindset to nurture it.

I started out with: PCOS, Hashimoto, depression, IBS, osteoarthritis, BED. Healthwise, I‘ve been given a terrible hand of cards. I have accepted my body and its flaws and have come out stronger than ever. I hope you guys can do the same!

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weight loss without the self hate!

So around 8 years ago I started my 1st weight loss journey. Long story short I went from 280lbs to 190lbs. I did this because I absolutely hated who I was and my life. Going to the gym was more of a way to punish myself. I was eating well under 1000 calories. I was going through a bad batch of depression, self hate. "Anger is a gift" was my main mentality, I absolutely wanted to destroy who I was. Eventually things got better, but I stopped working out and started eating for fun. I am in a way better situation mentally. I have gained weight again. I'm currently at 290lbs, and want to lose at least 60lbs. I've been trying to psyche myself up but it's been hard. I have cut back on what I eat and have lost weight. I know what I have to do, but it's been a challenge. Any advice or even similar stories. I'm really just reaching out to see if anyone else has had similar stories.

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Why is it so hard for me to eat a salad

I don't understand, it is so hard for me to choose a salad over a burger or something for example. But whenever I do manage to choose a salad instead, it always taste amazing and I never regret my choice.

I love the taste of salads, they are really enjoyable to eat especially with some avocado, corn, onions, etc.

So why the hell do I never want to eat it? I just had one for dinner tonight and it was difficult to choose it over some unhealthier options I had, but I did. It was fucking awesome, honestly better tasting then the other options I would have made, which is why I don't understand this weird aversion to salads that I have. Anyone else experience this? It's so strange because I genuinely enjoy salads that I make even over less healthy options, but it's so hard to force myself to eat one. The salad tasted way better then the burger I would have made instead.

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Losing Weight When You’re Already at a Healthy Weight

So about 2.5 years ago (October 2020) I decided I would start losing weight. CICO worked for me as I didn’t exercise at all and still ate junk food regularly. All I needed to do was track my calories every single night (my goal was 1200, I would definitely go over a few times a week but alas I stuck to around 1100-1500 every day for the most part). I eventually went from about 150 to 112 by June of 2021 (~40lbs lost in 9 months). I then maintained that loss for another year and a half.

Until I quit nicotine at the start of 2023. I’ve already gained 10lbs and it’s making me REALLY insecure. I’m still slim (5’4” and 125) but I really, really, don’t want to gain anymore. I honestly never want to see 130 on that scale ever again.

I feel like it’s much harder to see results now that I’ve quit nicotine. I can still try to limit my calories but it’s so hard to do that now that my little appetite suppressant is gone. Nicotine also speeds up your metabolism, so now I have to find time to go crazy on cardio like literally every day if I want to have the same metabolic rate I used to have while hitting nicotine.

It’s really making me want to go back to vaping. For those of you who have never vaped, what are your tips for losing weight when your starting weight is already relatively slim? And, for those of you who have vaped, how did you curb weight gain? Or did you lose the weight you did end up gaining?

Thank you so much.

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How do people get weight loss meds?

Relative is obese and it has contributed to numerous health issues over the years. I sometimes help him with pet care when he is dealing with his medical issues. Knee replacements, hormones unbalanced, and recently he said elevated glucose levels. He is barely 50 and mentioned this weekend “it’s time to get serious about losing weight”. I brought up the latest weight loss medications and he said “I asked- my doctor told me they are out of stock everywhere and he can’t get them. It could be a year or more before I can get them. They offered me something else but told me success isn’t as likely as the recent drugs.”

I guess I’m just surprised and feeling bad for him. Like he has bad knees so walking far is hard. He is basically pre diabetic. If he doesn’t qualify to get his hands on these meds who does?

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30 Day Accountability Challenge - Day 20

Hello loseit folks!

Day 20! I hope you’re all kicking butt. I know it’s early, but this is a short month. Day 28 is technically day 30. Whatcha all thinking about next month’s goals?

Log before I eat everything: Logged!

1800 – 2000 calories a day: On it!

Exercise five days a week: Rest day, I'm pooped. 15/20 days.

Journal for two minutes before playing my Switch: Nailed it. 16/20 days.

Read & respond to at least 3 comments a day on this post: Not tonight, gonna be busy off screens for the evening. I'm sorry kids, I get home from work & my eyes are too tired to do much screens. I’m working on getting a new presciption so I can spend more time on here with y’all.

Today's gratitude list: Today, I'm grateful for being able to go to the dentist & eye doctor. Lenty of folks can’t. This is me not rabbling about the American health care system because we aren’t here for that today.

Random self-care action I want to conquer today: Get to bed early & no screens after this post.

Your turn! How was your day 20?

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Weight Loss Calculator

I'm finding excuse after excuse not to lose weight.

Is there some kind of calculator that I can put in my height, weight, age and all that stuff to see if I eat X amount of calories per day I can lose X amount of weight in a week or in a month or whatever the case may be? I know it wouldn't be 100% correct but I need something visual or something to see the progress I can make. I'm all wrapped up in my own head.

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30 Day Accountability Challenge - Day 19

Hello loseit folks!

Day 19! Sunday funday. I hope you’re all having a lovely weekend.

Log before I eat everything: Logged!

1800 – 2000 calories a day: On it!

Exercise five days a week: 40 minute walk & vigorous cleaning & chores. This is pretty much how my weekends go. 15/19 days.

Journal for two minutes before playing my Switch: Nailed it. 15/19 days.

Read & respond to at least 3 comments a day on this post: Not tonight, gonna be busy off screens for the evening.

Today's gratitude list: Today, I'm grateful for family of choice & getting to see a far away friend via Animal Crossing.

Random self-care action I want to conquer today: There’s a face mask, bath & full skin care routine ahead of me.

Your turn! How was your day 19?

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Why does my back and arms hold so much fat?

For starters Im in pretty good shape, not overweight at all. I run twice a day 30 minutes, lift weights, bike, and I can do 30 pushups yet I still hold onto fat in these specific areas. Everywhere else Im thin but this sort of ruins my silhouette in a way. Im on a 1200 calorie deficiency bc I normally take in 1600, Im not sure if im even seeing progress in that area specifically. Im keeping it up but it's so frustrating, I understand I cant spot reduce but I find it weird that theses areas seem to hold everything

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Weekend bingers ? how do you combat this ?

I find due to boredom, stress, socialising the weekend is one of my most dangerous periods. A couple of shots of whiskey a couple of pastries a couple of packs of noodles oh yeah nice looking chicken wings and voila I'm over a d then I spend the Monday to Friday trying to get it all off again. Very Frustrating Cycle. How do you guys combat this ?

Ok a bit of background context I weigh about 100 kilos late 40s M decent arms solid build but that belly aaaaaargh anyway , my goal is to his 90ish by May,

I do keto and IF but also stressed a bit so I'm also stress eating even with my regimen.

Excercise regime is 2-3 times a week krav maga ( no running though bad knees ) , at least 2 times weights , and the occasional walk I work from home and it's maddening to see the scale yoyo like crazy I mean I'll get to 98 and take my foot of the pedal and whoops back at 101.

The issue is due to simple life bs I'm constantly trying to blow of steam or stem boredom on the weekends. Any time I socialize it just simply gets on my nerves that I can't have a decent drink 😒 so maybe I'll have one or 2 and I know this is messing with my regime so I'll nose dive into a chocolate bar or a rice meal ( trying to do keto this is no bueno)

And when did we have to write a few paragraphs to be able to get advice here ?

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Actively counting calories doesn't work for me anymore and I'm really sad about it.

Trigger warning : eating disorders

I'm using an alt account for this.

A few years ago I discovered calorie counting using the MFP app. I was 200lb and 5"5 and hated how I looked and how I felt about myself. No idea how I managed to stick to it, but I began at around 1200 - 1300 calories a day.

I realised how well it worked. I had a sedentary job, hated excersise of any form. It was perfect. But then I thought, if I lose this much in this space of time eating 1300 calories, just imagine how much faster the weight would fall off if I ate 1,100?!

And then I was restricting to 1000. Then 950. Then it was 800.

People were amazed. I lapped up the compliments. Even when I hit my goal weight, it wasn't enough. I even allowed cheat meals, but I wouldn't eat all day just so I could not feel guilty about the meal.

Then, if I felt I ate too much, I'd make myself sick. My lowest weight was just under 120lbs. I was proud of my achievements but I still wasn't happy. I'd been the fat kid my whole life and I finally wasn't but it still wasn't enough.

It never dawned on me that this might not be sustainable. And eventually, I began allowing myself to eat more. And more. And then i developed a problem with binge eating. I'd be hungry and then it's like I'd blink and I'm suddenly surrounded by crisp packets, chocolate wrappers, an empty Nutella jar. I would try and purge it out. Eventually I stopped bothering and just binged.

So I went back to my starting weight, plus a bit more. And stayed there for a year or so. I kept going back to MFP but counting just made me constantly think about food. I'd look at a packet of crisps and think, can I afford this? I wouldn't even particularly want them, but if I could fit them in, I would eat them. And then suddenly it's lunch time and I've only got 500 calories left for dinner, which wouldn't be made for a few hours, so I'd just go over my allowance for the day.

I'm now ten months post partum. I let myself eat whatever I wanted when I was pregnant. It was a rough pregnancy so I thought I'd treat myself. No idea what I gained because I never checked. I promised myself once the baby was here that I'd sort myself out and make healthier choices and go back to MFP.

Every time I go back to it, I fail. I'll last two or three days of keeping to 1500 - 1600 calories a day, just to get in the habit of it. It's always around day three or four that I fail and go over. Or I don't count. Or we order takeaway, which I think we have an addiction to.

But I feel indoctrined into MFP or calorie counting. Like I've been brainwashed into thinking it is the only surefire way to lose weight. I know every diet boils down to CICO, it's the active tracking of the calories that leads me to fail. Also, with a rambunctious ten month old that I'm alone with every day, it's very hard to stop and scan everything I'm about to eat. It makes me miserable. And now the baby is finally getting the hang of solids and eating full meals, I want to set the best example I can by providing and eating nutritious food.

How do I even do that? I do a lot of walking, maybe about six hours worth a week. Cheaper than getting the bus and the baby likes the scenery. But I feel like I've no idea how to lose weight without counting calories. One positive is I've noticed when I'm just listening to my body, I eat less often. With calorie counting I feel like i have to shove everything in to meet some sort of quota, but at the same time, not meet that quota, so I'm at a deficit. A second positive is that I'm actually now 195lbs. Woohoo.

Sorry about the rant. I've been feeling very low and disgusted at myself.

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Starting to look forward to my workouts

I really enjoy this sub. I’m early in my journey (just a few weeks in) but using apps to track my calories and workouts has been really helpful for me. I always thought that was sort of silly, but I’m finding the information really useful and motivating. I had a stressful week and skipped a workout yesterday, I was sitting at my desk tonight watching the sun go down and was like ‘I will feel better if I run” and so I did! Really proud of myself for not letting the inertia win. Also I’m starting to feel like working out and eating more consciously is becoming my default now. I haven’t even really lost weight yet, but I’m just excited by the momentum. For anyone curious, I use Loseit! for calorie tracking, Fitbod for gym workouts (not my favorite) and Nike Run Club for running. I love the Nike app because it comes with FREE training plans and a variety of types of runs and audio coaching. Anyways, just hoping to share what has worked for me so far and thank you all for doing the same.

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Alcohol & binge eating

I had a couple drinks tonight for the first time in awhile while out with friends, which I really enjoyed. It was a nice evening catching up over a totally reasonable amount of food and drink — I feel really good right now. Satisfied but not over-stuffed.

However… I also absolutely want to go find a huge amount of sugar and keep eating, which is the first time THAT’S happened in awhile. Living where I live, the window to make that happen will last several more hours.

I’ve previously recognized triggers of stress and sleep deprivation in making me want to binge, and I’ve gone to great lengths to minimize those triggers in my life. But I hadn’t really considered alcohol since I don’t drink often anyway (maybe twice a month, 1-2 drinks), and even less in the last couple months now that I’m working with a caloric budget… frankly, I don’t want to totally cut it out. But I also don’t want to go nuts on 2,000 calories of cookies every time. (Even though at this specific moment I really, really do…)

Has anyone else wrestled with alcohol as a gateway to binging, and come up with any tactics to stop one from leading to the other outside of just cutting the booze? For my other triggers I’m better about just plain avoiding them, but I’d love some insight on working alongside this one instead of against it if anyone has any thoughts to share, and if it’s possible at all.

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I think I am self sabotaging

So ever since August or September I have really tried to lose weight and stay in a caloric deficit. I have had a lot of day 1s and a lot of times when I just binge. Whenever I am going strong for 4 or 5 days, suddenly I start to doubt whether this whole thing is working or if I am just embarrassing myself with this effort. Typing that out seems weird but ya, that's what's going through my mind. I then just binge and I would have a self loathing period that would last from days to weeks. I weighed myself recently and saw that despite all that I lost 12 pounds( which for encouragement purposes I would hope is not water weight). So I started with my day 1 again on intermittent fasting but I keep binging at nights. I binge maybe so that I would eat my daily caloric limit in one meal so it's not too overboard but it still makes me lose hope you know? I really want to lose weight int he next 3 months and I need help. If anyone has advice please tell me.

Thanks y'all and good luck on your respective journeys.

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How fundamental is cardio to weight loss?

So I’m 117kg and have started strict dieting and going to the gym with a personal trainer,today I asked him wether he will make me do cardio or strength training exercises and he told me we will only be doing strength training exercises/building muscle and that weight loss is sufficient through being in a calorie deficit. Now I do agree with him and it’s widely known that CICO is what matters most to weight loss,but should I add cardio to the mix? I currently go to the gym 3 times a week with a personal trainer,should I go to the gym the other 3 days to do cardio alone?

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Weighing lighter later on in the day???

How long does it take for fat to burn? I weighed myself first thing this morning, ate breakfast, then took a 1 hour brisk walk. I weighted myself about 5 hours after my first weigh in out of curiosity and it was .6 lbs lighter (same clothing). I know it’s not a lot but I drank lots of water, had coffee, and a sandwich. I also did not go to the bathroom. Now I’m wondering if I should update my weight on loseit for today lol. Can exercise affect weight that quickly?!

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30 Day Accountability Challenge - Day 18

Hello loseit folks!

Day 18! I hope your February is going well!

Log before I eat everything: Logged!

1800 – 2000 calories a day: On it!

Exercise five days a week: 40 minute walk & vigorous cleaning & chores. 14/18 days.

Journal for two minutes before playing my Switch: Nailed it. 14/18 days.

Read & respond to at least 3 comments a day on this post: Not tonight, gonna be busy off screens for the evening.

Today's gratitude list: Today, I'm grateful for new bedding & some quiet time.

Random self-care action I want to conquer today: There’s a bath in my future.

Your turn! How was your day 18?

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[Challenge] European Accountability Challenge: February 18th, 2023

Hi team Euro accountability, I hope you’re all well! For anyone new who wants to join today, this is a daily post where you can track your goals, keep yourself accountable, get support and have a chat with friendly people at times that are convenient for European time zones.

Check-in daily, weekly, or whatever works best for you. It’s never the wrong time to join! Anyone and everyone are welcome! Tell us about yourself and let's continue supporting each other. Let us know how your day is going, or, if you're checking in early, how your yesterday went! Share your victories, rants, problems, NSVs, SVs, we are here!

I want to shortly also mention — this thread lives and breathes by people supporting each other :) so if you have some time, comment on the other posts! Show support, offer advice and share experiences!

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going on a four day vacation, worried about fat gain

going with some family to a B&B where breakfast is preset & served plated. Tomorrow’s breakfast will be French toast… not something I’m exactly comfortable eating. They say they have other things like fruit and yoghurt, but I’m not sure what kind (I think Greek is best). We’ll be doing a good amount of walking, but I won’t be able to do my normal HIIT routine. Not knowing what I’m going to eat or if the calories I’m tracking will be accurate is freaking me out.

I’m a tad stressed about the rest of our vacation. I know the fat gained will be just temporary & I’ll work on it when I get back home, but it’s driving me crazy. I don’t want to worry any of my family about my eating habits, but I also don’t want to eat everything they’ve already planned (we’re going to restaurants).

I’m not going to just throw in the towel & binge like crazy. But will these few days of vacation-eating have a big impact on fat gain? Any tips on not gaining a ton?

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Lost 110 lbs in a year, and I feel like I'm a different person

A year ago, I weighed 310 lbs. Today, I weigh 200 lbs. I'm 6'4", so according to the BMI chart, I'm not even overweight anymore!

It's been a long journey with ups and downs but I'm proud of how far I've come. It's weird, though, looking in the mirror and seeing a different person. I've been big my entire life. The person I see in the mirror is so different than the person I was for 23 years that it's hard not to stop and stare for a little while. Maybe I've become a little vain. I feel attractive. I'm happy with my body, the clothes I've always wanted to wear fit me now, and I'm so much more confident in myself now that I'm sure my demeanor has changed for the better too. It's a big change, but a positive one for sure.

Anyways, I want to share some advice. May or may not be helpful, idk, but I figure someone might appreciate it:

1: Work on your mental health. I know a lot of people try to lose weight to improve their mental health, but it's a two way street. I tried for years to lose weight but never got off the ground until some serious mental health issues were addressed.

2: Be careful not to develop an eating disorder. When I first started losing weight, I got obsessed with eating as few calories as I possibly could and watching my weight plummet (sometimes losing as much as 2 pounds in a day) only encouraged that bad habit. I didn't think I had a problem until I had a particularly bad anxiety attack over eating more than a thousand calories in one day. Yeah, it was that bad.

3: Everyone's gonna hate this one but I figured I'd share it anyways. Consider going vegan. Ignoring the ethical and environmental reasons to go vegan (though they are very good reasons imo), I found it was really helpful in keeping my diet healthy and low calorie in a way that was much better for me than that eating disorder thing I had going on. Plus, the food is pretty dope too.

Anyways, that's all I've got to get off my mind. I hope someone's found this helpful. I guess I can answer questions if anyone's got any. Thanks for reading my dumb rambling :)

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Losing weight with thyroid disease

I (25F) am desperately trying to lose weight! I’m currently 229lbs and my goal is 160lbs. I gained 80lbs in the last five years. I was diagnosed with both Graves’ disease and Hashimotos disease at age 20 and also got in a long term relationship which I’m sure contributed to some weight gain as well. I’m a very picky eater and don’t even like most unhealthy foods so I eat pretty decent. I just never have any energy. Any tips for losing weight with thyroid disease?

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How can I convince my mum to lose weight without insulting her?

My mum is very heavy, about 350lbs. She usually has small meals throughout the day but binges at night and has a packet of biscuits or family sized bag of crisps while watching tv. She also has quite large portions and eats a lot of carbs. She doesn’t exercise much either and seems to be getting less and less mobile. She used to do a lot around the house but sits most of the time now. It just feels like she’s given up. I don’t mean to sound judgmental here, I just want to paint a picture so I can get the best advice. I love her dearly and I’d hate anything to happen with her health.

My mum is a good person but she’s terrible at receiving criticism and is very sensitive. Her weight is a sensitive topic for her and I’m not sure how to encourage her to lose weight without hurting her feelings. I don’t eat the healthiest food myself, so maybe if I start eating healthier and making a show of it, she might follow suit? I’m really not sure what else to do

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Age really does affect weight loss.

I used to always be a runner. Sometimes, I’d cut back on my mileage and increase more gym workouts, but it’s safe to say exercise has always been consistent with me. Eating well, and cooking is something I started once I moved out of my parent’s house at 18. For 14 years, I was relatively the same weight and wore the same size.

I moved to Texas and for some reason could not run like I used to. It trained safely in the heat to acclimate myself, but even during the winters, my fitness just wasn’t the same. I went the the gym but the results I used to achieve did not seem to show.

In 2022 I really noticed my body changing and that over the past 3 years, I’ve slowly been putting on weight (from 122 to 139 lbs). December, 2022 I joined OrangeTheory to switch things up. I felt like I was getting some amazing workouts in 4 days a week. I was mindful (as always) of my calories and macros. I’ve been using my fitness pal to track since 2014 with the exception of taking a few months off here and there. It’s a part of my lifestyle and helps to keep me accountable.

I haven’t lost one pound since joining OrangeTheory. I feel stronger and am hoping that the next InBody scan reveals muscle mass gain, but otherwise I haven’t seen significant changes like I’m used to.

I woefully flicked through pictures of me in 2017-2018 which revealed a slim, toned body that people used to compliment me on. I decided to check my My FitnessPal app to see if I was doing anything differently at the time. Nope - my macros and calories were relatively the same. My exercise routine wasn’t significantly different other than the fact that I did have more runs in as apposed to HIIT training, but was in the gym enough to have toned muscles. I’m sleeping much better these days, and am more consistent with my water consumption. I have a much healthier “adult” routine which I includes far less drinking.

I’m 34 now. Around the age of 32, I really started to notice a change in physic and difficulty in maintaining what I was used to. Genetically, my mom says this is around the time her body really changed, too. I think accepting that you can’t look 28 forever has been a hard pill to swallow. It’s not like I’m middle aged but I’m not very young anymore. I’m sure in ten years I’ll see pictures of the body I’m in now and wish I had appreciated it more. So, my goal now is to be grateful that o have my health and have worked hard my whole life to maintain it.

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I would like a Fit Friend

I've fallen of the wagon this week. I've been sick these past few days and have also been really stressed, and I've rationalized to myself that I need to eat a lot in order to cure my cold and to deal with stress.

I think it might be worth trying to have a fit friend, who talks to me and checks in with me every now and then. I remember reading a weight loss study that said participants felt losing weight was easier when they had to report to someone. Currently, I just report to myself, my girlfriend and MyFitnessPal.

I would like to be friends on Discord. I also only want one friend just because I'm not good at developing a bunch of new relationships. Even if it's not fruitful, friends are still cool.

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Why am I not losing weight when I eat more?

I’m a 156 cm 50 kg F and 19-20% bf and I’m trying to lose weight at the rate of 0.2-0.4 kg a week. I’m using an adaptive TDEE sheet to track my calories/loss and I run everyday (2 miles in 20 min - approx 160 calories) and walk 10k steps everyday. I also weight lift twice a week, and my sheet shows a TDEE of 1755-1800 per week. I eat about 1300-1400 calories every week. However, if I mess up, my weekly intake goes up to 1600 and I don’t lose weight. How is this possible?

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Upped my intake - why am I feeling tired and weak?

After several months of fairly rapid weight loss (1.1 kg or 2.4 lbs a week) I've gone from obese to just inside the healthy BMI range, and decided to slow things way down. So I dialled in 0.25 kg/week to the LoseIt app, and set a slightly elevated protein intake of 1.33 g/kg. Ever since then (around 10 days) I've felt exhausted a lot of the time, and my limbs have felt weak and jelly-like much of the time as well, though they still manage resistance exercise at a similar level. My digestion also seems a little off - I feel bloated and gross a lot of the time, and it seems to take food a long time to transit. Also I've completely stopped losing weight - which is fine, I'm not in a hurry to lose the last two kg, it's just interesting.

My theories:

• My body has decided the famine is over and is trying to focus on accumulating as many of the now-abundant calories it can
• The extra protein is going straight to my muscles to rebuild some of the bulk they lost over the last few months, and that is sapping my energy and making the muscles feel weak
• I have coincidentally contracted a mild illness and everything will be fine in a week
• I lost weight too fast and broke my liver, or something similarly disastrous

My doctor could only suggest that sometimes bodies are weird when you change your diet and I'll probably feel better soon. We're waiting on some blood tests that he expects will come back completely normal.

42M 188cm SW:120kg CW:87kg GW:85kg

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